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Self-confidence is the key to success

This blog is for young overweight girls that are going through being bullied, feeling hopeless, empty inside and/or ready to give up on everything. I want you to hear my story and what I’ve been through so you know that you are not alone. There is someone out there going through the same things as you.

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I was bullied since I was 8 and I always cried on my bus rides home from elementary school. Everyone laughed at me and told me that I was different from everyone else, that I was too ugly and no one would ever like me. I was so hurt everyday and all I wanted was to be friends with everyone. I wanted to “fit in” and no matter what I did they just used me and laughed at me. After elementary school I went to middle school and things didn’t get any better. I was still judged on my weight. People laughed at me for actually liking the people that I did. After 2 years of that I went to high school with a mind set that I wasn’t anybody, that I’m different from everyone else and I won’t ever be happy. After a few months in high school people actually talked to me, got to know me and be okay with me. Some tried to tell me how beautiful I was and the part that sucked the most was that I wasn’t able to believe them because of everything I had been through. I never would look at myself in the mirror because my feelings were why would I look at something that no one would ever want to look at themselves?  Now I’m 16 years old and I know that I’m not ugly. I’m a beautiful young lady who has a lot of problems but is working on them day by day and I’m happy.

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My message to young girls out there is to not give up. You are all beautiful no matter what shape or size you are. Everyone is different and unique in there own way and that’s what makes them even more beautiful. Those kids were right back when I was 8, I’m not like everyone else and I don’t want to be. I’m Emily and I’m happy with being me and you all should be happy with being yourselves too. A common quote for you too think about is, “My size should not define who I am and nor can it limit me to achieve my goals. I am limitless.” Go by this quote everyday, even though you have some flaws. Curves on your body do not define who you are as a person. Prove everyone that put you down wrong by having confidence in yourself. Be the real you and love yourself because I was always taught that you can’t love somebody else if you can’t love yourself first.

Psychology uses the term self esteem to understand a persons overall emotions. Self-esteem is critical to everyones healthy functions, however no one pays attention. It is said, “when we are able to defend ourselves we have higher self esteem. Self-esteem mainly has to do with one’s physical self appearance and how they feel about themselves.” People most likely see the importance of self-esteem to their psychological health. It isn’t unusually odd that most of us try to protect and appreciate our self confidence whenever possible. What is odd is that attention to self-esteem has become a general concern, at least for Americans who see a bias opinion of themselves as the central psychological source from which all demeanor of positive outcomes recoil. The inference that low self-esteem lies at the root of individual confidence, along the lines social issues and distinctions, has postponed an determined social agendas for many years. Yes, campaigns to raise people’s sense of self-worth are successful and these campaigns give them confidence.

Racism : turning a single human race against each other

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All people are a part of a single human race. That being said, all humans are internally composed of the same substance; the key differences that separate us are people’s physical features. Just because a person does not look similar to what you are comfortable with does not account for the fact that they could genuinely be a good person. In a perfect world we would never have to worry about these things but we don’t live in a perfect world and unfortunately stereotypes have created tensions between races.

One thing that really upsets me is the fact that a person, no matter what age or race, is affected by stereotypes. For example, there are people who talk badly about a young Black male walking down the street with a hood on. They might assume the worst about him such as he is a drug dealer and he is up to no good. These ideas are only because he is a Black male. If it was reversed and he was a young Caucasian boy, people would immediately think there is no cause for alarm.

But racism doesn’t stop there. Racism also has an affect on young women as well; a young Black female is expected to become a dropout and become pregnant at a young age  and to be on welfare. I don’t think that it’s right for someone to talk stereotypically about someone else just because they are a darker skin color; that person may actually plan to go to college and have a career.

People automatically assume that because you’re Black you are on public assistance and this is not true. Yes there is a large percentage of Black people who are on public assistance and that is a tragedy but, it is not entirely because they want to be. Many of them are not educated enough to obtain a job where they can earn a livable wage. I think part of this problem is due to the fact that the public school systems are failing to educate all kids. All kids should have the chance to graduate and continue on to a university or college. I think that if these students actually felt that someone believed in them maybe they can actually go further. Sadly, because people put them down all the time they stick to doing drugs, getting into trouble on the streets or just becoming a dropout.

One thing that I am concerned about is even if Black students get the opportunity, they face new challenges of going on to a college or university, finding funds, and being undermined by other students or professors who don’t believe they can succeeded.

I know we don’t live in a perfect world, but if we lived without racism life would be easier. Racism is one of those judgmental parts of being human but it shouldn’t be that way. We should always look at the cover of a book to get an idea of what we are going to read but we should not decide whether or not we should read it.

As early as the 17th century a scientist named Boyle, believed that all races came from the same source which is Adam and Eve. He studied reports on parents having diverse albinos, so he believes that Adam and Eve were white and were able to have children of any race. Ideas about race has changed over time. For example, Eugenics which was developed by Francis Galton focused on racial issues. There was eagerness to develop a superior race of people based on the proof that there was once a natural race. It was believed that in the “beginning” people were separated locally and each region shared the same aspect and phenotypes.

Today, we are less divergent then before. We are a community of all races. Even though there is still judgments out there we are still becoming a community day by day.

You Know My Name; Now Here’s my STORY

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Hello world,

My name is Emily I’m 16 years old and I’m a junior in high school. I’m going to be the first in my family to attend college and I’m planning on majoring in psychology, the scientific study of mental functions and behavior. I like  psychology because it’s directed towards understanding human activity. I believe that everyone can be happy, even if you have a past that wasn’t as great as others. Life hasn’t been easy for me but I’m still trying to achieve my goals.

I am a very shy and insecure person because of the way people treat me. When I changed elementary schools, in the new school I was judged based on my weight. Because of what I have been through as an overweight teen  I would like to post about childhood obesity. I let the stress of others putting me down effect who I am. I have always loved the saying ” you know my name not my story” and “don’t judge a book by its cover” because I have always been judged by my appearance and not by who I really am.

I guarantee if most people who judge me got to know the real Emily they would think twice about how they felt. I am very nice, I love to make jokes even when they aren’t funny. I love to laugh, swim and play volleyball. I love music, I like pictures because they tell stories, I love to explore things and all together my story describes the life of Emily a teenage girl who is NOT perfect and doesn’t really want to be.